Chickpea Salad Sandwiches

Growing up, I loved chicken salad sandwiches…and egg salad sandwiches…and even tuna salad if you caught me on the right day.

Fast forward to now, and I still love these types of sandwiches—and luckily, they can be made delightfully tasty without any of the animals being involved!

One of my go-to sandwiches now is a chickpea salad sandwich. It’s super easy to make, and, as many of you may already know, I love when you can make something by just tossing ingredients in and tasting as you go, rather than measuring everything..and this is definitely that kind of recipe. :)

Check out the recipe guidance below!

Chickpea Salad Sandwiches

  1. Drain and rinse a can of chickpeas (garbanzo beans) and dump them into a large glass bowl.

  2. Mash the chickpeas with a fork, leaving some larger pieces in (it doesn’t need to be pulverized).

  3. Now it’s time to add some stuff! First add some vegan mayo—I like to start with just a spoonful or two, mix it up, and then add more if it doesn’t quite look creamy enough.

  4. Add a few spoonfuls of pickle juice (again, start small, mix in, and then add more if it needs it—the pickle juice can end up making it quite runny if you add too much).

  5. Chop up a couple of pickles, some yellow onion, and some celery if you have it on hand (I often don’t, it’s good with our without) and add all of them into the mix.

  6. Add some yellow mustard, garlic powder, onion powder, dill, and a little bit of salt. Taste, and add more of whatever is still needed!

  7. Mix it all up, and slop it on some bread! I like to add lettuce and tomato, as well.

  8. Enjoy! It will probably be a tad messy…but what good food isn’t?!

I typically will also make some homemade fries to go along with my sandwich, but feel free to add whatever side sounds best to you!

I hope you can enjoy this sandwich soon—now that it’s getting warmer, it’s an especially great time to make it, since it’s cool, refreshing, and doesn’t require the stove. :)

Ten Tips for Managing Stress During the Holidays

Holiday seasons are notorious for being stress-inducing months of full calendars, toxic messages, and lots of pressure to be perfect. Today, I want to share a few tips for managing stress during the holidays, and hopefully these strategies can help you experience a much calmer, more enjoyable season.

1) Know your boundaries (and the power of “no”)

This time of year, there are a lot of messages out there telling us that we need to do it all. But the reality is that we cannot do everything, and it’s important to listen to ourselves and what we need to feel balanced. Before taking on too much, remember that saying “no” is a valid response, and you are not required to give a reason. Protect your boundaries, your schedule, and your space. (And while we may not be pulled in as many directions during this year of social distancing, it’s still important to know how many Zoom calls is too many! Know your limits and honor them.)

2) Keep away from the diet programs

The diet industry really ramps up their game this time of year, and so it may take some extra intentionality to stay away from those messages. Unfollow, turn off, disregard—and keep yourself surrounded by people who promote a more balanced, intuitive, nourishing framework instead.

3) Practice self-compassion

Overeating and eating more of what you may not typically eat is a pretty natural occurrence during the holidays. If this happens, don’t stress. This does not impact your self-worth, your ability to be healthy, or your long-term desires for your body or overall health. Repeat after me: “I am the same me regardless of how much or little I eat.”

4) Skip the overcompensating

Pay attention to phrases like “I’m gonna need to run an extra mile tomorrow after all this food” or “I deserve to eat this because I didn’t eat very much earlier today/this week.” Challenge that toxic messaging, and instead, trust the fluidity of your process. Remember that the things we enjoy are not things we need to “earn.”

5) Play!

To me, one of the best reminders of this season is the beauty of play. The holidays don’t have to be a stressful time—in fact, they can be a time full of lightness, fun, and childlike wonder! Let yourself fully embrace the glee you may feel over holiday lights. Embrace the joy of hot chocolate with marshmallows. Dance around the room to your favorite holiday song. Laugh, love, and play!

6) Stick with your go-to strategies (but don’t stress about them)

Does running make you feel like you’re in a better head space? Do you respond well to a hot bath, listening to music, or whipping up a delicious meal? Remember that with all the things that may pull you in different directions this time of year, it’s important to be intentional about sticking with what you know works for you and your stress management. Don't stress about them—just do what you can to ensure you’re taking care of your needs.

7) Honor all the feelings

This time of year is often a mixed bag of emotions—we’re told that it’s the happiest time (and certainly embrace that if it is for you!), but often, we may also feel sadness, grief, nostalgia, loneliness, anxiety…all of it is natural to experience always, and especially during such an emotionally-charged time (and even more so this year!). Remember that you do not need to feel a certain way during the holidays, and whatever comes up for you is valid. Don’t put pressure on yourself to only feel certain things this time of year (or any time).

8) Know your support system

You don’t have to handle it all on your own! Even though this year in particular has made it challenging to stay connected, it’s important that we identify the supports in our lives and use them when we need. This could be family, friends, an online buddy, therapist, nutritionist, or other healing practitioner. Take note of who those people are and make a plan to stay connected with them during this season of life. 

9) Have compassion for others

It can be so easy to get wrapped up in our own individual holiday experiences that we can forget about those around us. Instead of the holiday season representing a time of stress, overspending, and busy schedules, it can instead be a time of year to check in with ourselves and ask what roles we’re taking on in our communities. Taking action to love those around us and help build a more just world is something that can be done all year round, and now is a great time to see what actions we can take to do that!

10) Remember that perfection doesn’t exist

Although this is a special time for many of us, putting pressure on ourselves to make it “perfect” is unnecessary and takes away the enjoyment of it. As important as the holidays can feel, they will come and go—it’s really just another time of year, and it doesn’t need to be any certain way. No one “wins” the holidays… just do what you can to enjoy it as much as possible, honor all the feelings that may come up, and trust that come January 1st, you’re still your same amazing self, no matter how the month before may have looked.

And if you’re looking for some therapeutic support to get you through the holidays, head over to www.alyssamcleantherapy.com to learn more about my therapy services!

November Donations

If you’re subscribed to the Kind Living newsletter, then you were the first to know about the donations for this month! (And if you’re not on my list, let’s get you on it—I’d love to have you!)

This month, I’ll be donating 10% of proceeds to the Native American Rights Fund, which provides legal assistance for Indigenous people. While Thanksgiving is often viewed as a holiday to celebrate blessings, peace, and gratitude, this holiday's foundation represents something much darker and more violent. And as a white person, I've been exploring how I might recognize the holiday in new ways—ways that acknowledge the atrocities that were done, and continue to be done, to Indigenous people, and ways in which I can better honor those who cultivated the earth before it was invaded by white people. The donation to NARF is only one small step, and I am always learning (and unlearning) as I advocate for a more just world. I am committed to the life-long work of anti-oppression and of recognizing the privilege I have because of the violence of white colonialism.

This month I will also be donating another 10% of proceeds to Love Always Sanctuary, an animal rescue based in Los Angeles. November’s holiday of Thanksgiving not only represents the atrocities that were, and continue to be, done to Indigenous people—it also celebrates the violence done to animals, and turkeys in particular. It's estimated that 46 million of these intelligent, social, affectionate, and vocal beings are killed for Thanksgiving in the U.S. each year. Turkeys are typically around 16-24 weeks old when they are slaughtered, and the conditions of the factory farms where they live before that are horrific. Love Always Sanctuary has rescued several turkeys over the years. Sadly, they lost one of their turkeys, Marlene, a few months ago. They currently care for 3 turkeys (Einstein, Tesla, and Mena) in addition to many other animals, including senior animals and those requiring extra care. It is a beautiful space full of warmth and love of all beings.

If you’re interested in donating to NARF, click here: Donate to NARF

If you’re interested in donating to Love Always, click here: Donate to Love Always

Why I Offer Sliding Scale

Let’s talk about financial accessibility in wellness.

Now, sliding scale options aren’t the only way to address lack of access, and accessibility issues in wellness go well beyond the financial. And I am by NO means an expert on this.

But the more I see in this space about “high ticket clients,” the less at home I feel. And the more that coaches focus on things like 10k months, the fewer people we’re going to be able to help.

We all have different means, but that shouldn’t mean that only some people can get well.

I’ve had a sliding scale payment option in my practice for awhile. I also offered it when I was a therapist. And I’ve personally been able to access services because my practitioners had this kind of option. 

And I still have privilege. The option to pay less still means I’ve doled out a decent amount—an amount that not everyone can pay. And that’s true in my current work—I don’t for one second want to portray myself as some big problem-solver for equal access to wellness services (though, I want to keep aspiring to that). I still charge money—money that can be a barrier for some who may otherwise want to work with me.

But the more steps we take to try to make this space feel more accessible—and wellness more attainable—the truer to our sense of purpose we’ll be as wellness practitioners. 

Offering sliding scale doesn’t mean every person will have access. 

Offering sliding scale doesn’t mean that I don’t still want a livable income. 

And offering lower payment options to people who need it doesn’t automatically mean that those people won’t be as motivated or committed just because they’re investing less money.

If as practitioners, our work includes fighting unjust food or healthcare systems, then we need to somehow not just be available for people who can pay for high ticket services.

I certainly don’t have all the answers, and I’m in constant work to create balance and to make my work sustainable both financially and emotionally. But if you’re interested in how I structure my sliding scale options, either as a practitioner or potential client, please do not hesitate to reach out.

If this space is only for some of us, then it’s really helping none of us.

If you’re looking for a therapist who offers sliding scale, I use this same approach in my therapy services! Head to www.alyssamcleantherapy.com to learn more.

Ethical Veganism and Human Liberation

I am a white vegan, and I can do better.

People who identify as “vegan” do so for a variety of reasons. Some vegans focus solely on health, some especially highlight environmental or animal welfare reasons. But in my experience, most vegans describe a combination of rationales for choosing a vegan lifestyle.

I identify as what is known in the community as an ethical vegan. This means that, while the purpose of my own veganism is certainly multifaceted, for me, the overarching focus is definitively on reducing suffering. This certainly speaks to the welfare of animals, but I also feel that veganism is important to reduce health-related suffering and our long-term environmental distress. Generally, it’s about active compassion and speaking out against injustice. And so, to me, ethical veganism means advocating for the liberation of both non-human animals and our fellow humans who are experiencing oppression.

In the vegan world, we as a group have largely not been great about speaking as directly about human rights as we do about animal rights. And this is a missing piece in our push for compassion that cannot continue to go unacknowledged. We care deeply about reducing the suffering of animals because we know we cannot stay silent when sentient beings are being brutalized—that must translate to the human experience as well, or we are not truly abiding by the values to which we cling.

In recent days, I have seen people within the vegan community taking advantage of the civil unrest to promote the animal rights movement. Instead of using the platform to ensure the focus is on racial injustice and oppression of our fellow humans, there are those who have attempted to reframe the Black Lives Matter ideals in order to ask that the public acknowledge that animal lives matter, too. This is severely tone deaf and has been incredibly disheartening to witness within my community — it cannot continue.

Black people, Indigenous people, and People of Color experience oppression every day in ways that I, as a white person, will never understand. And so I must keep listening, learning, and showing up. As a vegan whose life’s work it is to advocate for justice and compassion, it is my responsibility—and particularly as a white vegan—to stand with BIPOC in solidarity and with intentionality against racial injustice. And my ongoing fight against brutality means that I stand with the Black community (now and always) to demand that the police and our governments—and all of us—are held accountable.

I do not always get this right. I have had moments where I feel so overwhelmed by the plight of animals that, with all of my privilege, I wonder if that is all I have to give. And while boundaries and self-care are important, it is crucial to our work as vegan advocates for justice that we make sure our energy is spent on acting against oppression wherever it is. Suffering at the hands of another does not only occur on the farms and in the slaughterhouses. Systemic oppression occurs on our streets, in our schools, in our homes, in our businesses, in our governments; and as voices of compassion, we must speak against that brutality—and the silencing of it—as well. If we are not acknowledging our privilege and using it to fight for our fellow humans, how can we begin to think that we are advocating for justice at all?

To be clear, I certainly cannot speak for every vegan. I can only speak to my personal observations of the community at large and specifically my experience as a white person in this community. And I know that we can do better—that I can do better. If we choose to be on the front line, put ourselves at risk, speak out even if we know we’ll be met with dissent, all for the purpose of fighting against animal suffering, then we should just as easily be the first to advocate for our fellow humans who are suffering. And this means that we must continue to stand with the Black community long after this moment. When this movement continues forward but many of us have the opportunity (privilege) to return to “normal,” we must fight against the urge to take that turn back to complacency.

We must do the work, do the learning, take the actions—we can donate, write letters, call our government officials, educate ourselves about the sourcing of the products we buy, refuse to invest our dollars or our time in companies that exploit. We can have hard conversations and we can challenge the racism in ourselves and when we see it in others. As vegans, these are so many of the things we already do for the benefit of animals. And as white vegans, we must also use our platform of compassionate justice—and our privilege—to listen, to learn, and to uplift the human voices demanding change in the face of oppression.

As an ethical vegan, that is exactly what I am called to do.

The Law of Attraction: How Manifestation Language Ignores Systemic Oppression

If you’ve spent mere moments in the wellness world, you’ve likely come across the ideas of manifestation and the Law of Attraction. Articles like “How to Manifest Wealth” or “10 Ways to Attract the Life you Want” seem to be everywhere.

While I’m not terribly well-versed in this philosophy, it troubled me from the first time I heard people talk about it. And yet, it feels like there isn’t much room in many holistic wellness spaces to express frustration with it.

Luckily, this week I had the privilege of viewing an Instagram Live hosted by Holisticism about this very topic. It was so refreshing to hear this particular discussion about manifestation language, as it reflected the feelings I’ve had about it for a long time. It helped me really solidify and give more words to the general discomfort I’ve had around this topic, and I wanted to be able to share some of those thoughts.

First, for those who don’t know, the Law of Attraction is basically this: our thoughts manifest reality, and so if we can change our thoughts, we can manifest that which we desire. Now, there are some pieces of this that can be helpful. As a former therapist, I’ve used cognitive-behavioral therapy techniques with many clients, which says generally that changing negative thought patterns into more helpful ones can impact our behavior and our emotional states; this can help us cope with our situations and help us manage our response to them. Where I feel the Law of Attraction principles can go awry is that they tell us that if your situation isn’t what you want it to be, you can think yourself into a new situation—you attract what you think. The flip side of this is that if your situation is not what you want it to be, your thoughts must have also attracted that reality.

Not only do I find this to be a bit shame-based, but it rests on patriarchal, capitalist ideals and completely disregards the impact of systemic oppression. This is where my discomfort with it has been centered—there are circumstances larger than what mere positive thinking can overcome, especially when we are not in positions of power, and the Law of Attraction is extremely binary in its approach. Changing one’s thoughts does not solely have the power to change one’s situation if that situation is largely a result of problematic power structures, and blame should not be placed on the oppressed for that—injustice is not manifested by the oppressed, but rather by the oppressor.

Now, please hear me—I am in no way saying that people experiencing oppression are incapable of making changes in their lives or that our thoughts don’t have any impact on our experiences. What I am saying is that the Law of Attraction particularly caters to privileged, middle-to-upper-class white people, and it does not leave much room for there to be circumstances larger than the person trying to manifest a better situation. In this way, I have found this sort of manifestation language to be in itself oppressive.

How can I look at a Person of Color and tell them they can attract a life free from oppression and racism just by changing their thoughts?

How can I tell an unhoused person that they can think their way into a new home?

How can I tell an individual with low or no income that they can attract money and wealth simply by focusing on thoughts of abundance?

How can I tell an immigrant that they have complete autonomy over their situation, while in reality the unjust systems remain in control?

How can I tell a trans or non-binary person that they can manifest a life free from discrimination solely by thinking positively?

How can I tell any person from a marginalized community that they alone have the responsibility to change their situation?

Not only does this place the entire burden of responsibility on the oppressed, but it completely releases the liability of the oppressor.

It says that those in power need not worry about being accountable for the unjust systems, because each person is in charge of their own destiny, oppressed or not.

Again, I am not saying that people experiencing oppression do not have the strength and ability to succeed—I am saying that I, a cisgender white person, have been allotted much more room to “manifest success” compared with someone who does not have the privilege I carry. And this privilege is unearned—it was bestowed on me at birth by the systems that work to keep the oppressed down.

With this privilege, it is my obligation to speak to the unjust systems—those that directly impact me, and those that don’t. And I am shirking that responsibility if I endorse the idea that the Law of Attraction philosophy works equally for everyone and is relevant to everyone’s situation. It does not, and it is not.

When systems work for or against certain people, that needs to be what we look at first. Any successes I may have might be partly due to my thoughts and choices, but those always occur within a particular context—a context in which “success” is much easier for me to attain than it is for others because of the unjust systems in place. While we may each be responsible for our own selves, our choices, our actions, the intricacies of the systems that impact our lives are too complex to be able to make overarching statements about manifesting the life you want. In reality, systemic oppression serves to ensure that certain people will have a much harder time living the way they wish, and no amount of positive thinking will manifest real change if we aren’t taking steps to dismantle those systems first.

To be clear, I’m still learning. I’m not here to be a voice of Truth, just of my truth. I’m not here to say that manifestation language hasn’t been helpful for people, or that only people in privilege can use it. I’m simply here to speak to some of the problems with it and to encourage recognition of the systems in place that subtly—and often not so subtly—serve to keep “abundance” out of reach for some, as well as reinforcing the capitalist definition of what “success” should mean. Disrupting systemic oppression is a crucial step for truly ensuring that real abundance can be experienced by all and not just those who are privileged enough to be able to attract it without facing unjust barriers.

Thank you to Holisticism for inspiring this article! You can find them at www.holisticism.com.

If you’re looking for a therapist who aligns with these perspectives, head to www.alyssa.mcleantherapy.com for more information on my therapy services!

Ways That Plant-Based Eating Can Work For You (and Some That Won't)

I’ve seen a lot of articles and social media posts lately about people who made the change to plant-based eating, only to find that it did not work for them. As interest in plant-based, vegetarian, and vegan lifestyles increases, misinformation and lack of information have also seemed to become more pervasive. It worries me when these articles or posts are published, because it skews the reality of plant-based and vegan eating, and it highlights what is true for eating habits in general: uninformed eating of any kind will likely fail you.

Now, I am not here to say that there aren’t reasons that certain dietary lifestyles may not work for some people. I am not using a single blog post to categorically state that one way works for everyone and no one should ask questions. What I do want to do is clear up some misconceptions and hopefully offer a gentle reminder that when making a change in your life, it’s important to do your homework.

Myth #1: You have to eat “fake meat” if you’re vegetarian or vegan.

I actually read recently that someone tried a vegan diet for a week but they didn’t like it, in part because they had to eat alternative meats in order to get enough protein. Now, we’ll address the protein myth in a bit, but issues with alternative meats seem to be getting more attention so I think it’s important that this also be addressed.

I find alternative meats to be handy for certain recipes. I occasionally like things like plant-based pepperoni and sausage on pizza. Generally, I don’t find them to be all that necessary on a daily basis, mostly because over the years, I’ve been able to adjust what really tastes and feels good to my body. But I do enjoy them from time to time, and I know many people get a lot of nourishment from alternatives like tempeh, tofu, and seitan.

There’s been a huge amount of concern and big headlines of “BUT IS IT ACTUALLY HEALTHIER?!”, particularly with the more processed varieties like store-bought veggie burgers (versus alternatives such as tofu, for instance). Here’s the deal—no one is advertising alternative meats as a health food in the same vein as, say, an apple. It is a healthier option than meat in many ways (and there are healthier alternatives than others), and there’s also no false advertising regarding the ingredients. Is it processed? Yes. Is that good for your body? Probably not if you eat it all the time. This doesn’t mean that it should be discarded as an option to reduce meat consumption, as meat consumption is linked with numerous health problems, especially if it’s eaten frequently.

My recommendation? If you like it, enjoy having it. Also, be on the lookout for additional ways to format your meals, with whole food ingredients you maybe haven’t tried, because it’s very likely you don’t actually need the meat as much as you think. But if you do? Look for the brands that have an ingredients list that is generally on the shorter side and contains items that you know and can pronounce (which is really what I recommend for all foods and nutrition labels).

Myth #2: You won’t get enough protein.

I feel like this topic has been talked to death, but somehow it continues to be a strongly publicized myth. The reality is that most Americans consume double the recommended protein intake every day—for most people, the protein concern might actually need to be in the opposite direction of what it is. My viewpoint is that a part of the reason there is so much focus on protein is that we associate it with feeling full and satisfied. And while protein absolutely plays a role in that, what we forget in that conversation is that fiber is actually crucial to satiation. There is minimal fiber in meat, but there is a ton in veggies, fruits, and whole grains. So if you’re feeling low on protein, that might be true, but you may also want to hone in on your fiber intake, as well as fat intake from sources such as nuts, seeds, and avocado. A well-planned plant-based or vegan routine should not result in being hungry all the time.

And luckily, if you are low on protein, it isn’t just in meat—it can be found in a lot of veggies, beans, lentils, grains, nuts, and seeds. With these foods also containing fiber and other vital nutrients, it’s a no-brainer to get your protein from non-animal sources.

Myth #3: I have to eat a lot of processed foods.

So, this is related to Myth #1, but I wanted to separate it out, because there are a lot of processed foods beyond alternative meats. I’ve seen so many people say “I tried going vegan but I felt terrible so I had to stop.” Now, feeling terrible could be occurring for many reasons, but my first question is always to take a look at what they’ve been eating. And I see daily routines that include so much processed food and little to no whole foods—it’s no wonder they felt terrible! Just as you can eat all processed non-plant foods and feel terrible, the same goes for the plant foods.

Vegan cheese is a big one that I hear mentioned a lot, because it’s processed and has a lot of hard-to-pronounce ingredients (though some brands are coming out now that have fewer problematic ingredients). I definitely consume vegan cheese for pizza and if I want it on top of pasta, and I enjoy it. I don’t have it frequently enough for it to feel icky in my body, and in my opinion, that’s the sweet spot. But what I have found to be even more helpful is learning how to make my own! Enter: the amazing cashew. Cashews are a vegan’s hero, in my opinion. They can be blended with nutritional yeast and spices to make a delicious parmesan, or add some milk or water and suddenly you have a creamy cheese sauce. You can blend them up for various dips, sauces, dressings, and desserts!

When I first went vegan, I had no idea how much could be homemade and taste way better than a many store-bought alternatives. I learned to get creative in the kitchen, read a bunch of recipes for inspiration, and trust my gut. Eating a lot of processed foods when plant-based or vegan isn’t a necessity—you just have to do the research to learn about your options!

Myth #4: I have to eat a bunch of raw foods.

As I said in the last section, my first step with people struggling with any food routine is to understand what they’re eating. This not only includes the specific foods, but also in what forms. It may not be widely known, but while everyone reacts differently to cold, raw foods, generally, they are harder for the digestive system to process. And if you’re like me, I have a constitution that prevents me from eating almost any cold, raw food. I realized this when I became a patient of Traditional Chinese Medicine many years ago—I learned that because of the many different antibiotics I took starting when I was very young, coupled with chronic anxiety and a history of disordered eating patterns, my digestion had become pretty weak. And for a long time, I ate mostly smoothies and salads, putting further strain on my system. Once I started reducing the amount of cold foods in my routine, my digestion was much happier. Now, I still insist on having a smoothie most mornings (though I use fresh fruit instead of frozen, and I add some warming spices like ginger or cinnamon to counteract some of the cold), but that is generally the only uncooked thing I eat on a regular basis, and that works for me.

Now, this is not true for everyone. But it is one of my primary concerns when I hear someone’s story about going vegan and the result was a poorly functioning digestive system. If you prefer to try a raw vegan diet first, go ahead! It works for some. But if you notice your body is not having it, please listen to that and try a different way before throwing the baby out with the bath water.

Myth #5: I won’t get all my nutrients.

We’ve all heard this one. And this myth about the frail, protein-starved, nutritionally-deficient vegan is problematic not only because of how it skews the picture of the typical vegan, but also because it completely sidesteps the fact that so many people eat nutritionally-deficient diets, including those who consume animal products. Vitamin D and omega-3 are two nutrients that are commonly associated to be low with vegetarians and vegans (which can be true without supplementation, I’m not discounting that), while the reality is that many people, even the non-veg folks, are deficient and may need to supplement or make dietary changes. Further, the more animal products one consumes, the less likely it is that enough nutrient-dense plants are consumed (there is a concept of “crowding out” in the nutrition world, which means if we eat more of certain food groups, the natural result is that we will eat less of other food groups, as we only have enough room in our bodies for it all!). When we’re talking about vitamins, minerals, antioxidants, and fiber, for example, the vast majority are best consumed via whole plant foods. While vegans and vegetarians do need to supplement certain nutrients (vitamin B-12, especially), this does not mean that meat eaters are automatically nutritionally healthy. And this myth around what comprises quality nutrition is extremely concerning, as the misinformation carries the risk that many people will think that they are eating in a nourishing way when they are not.

When I first went vegan, I did it slowly, which was helpful, but initially without much research. I think I was about 3 months in when I realized I should probably be taking a vitamin B-12 supplement. That prompted me to do even more research to ensure that my daily food routine was helping me rather than hurting me. (This research is actually also what led me to a career in nutrition—I enjoyed learning so much, I figured I’d follow that passion!) And since then, I’ve been able to build a food plan for myself that truly gives my body what it needs. You can start a plant-based or vegan routine and not get proper nutrition, just as you can do on the standard American diet. Optimally, every person is taking a look at what they’re eating and making sure the food is meeting their nutritional needs. Headlines claiming that a vegan lifestyle is categorically nutritionally deficient may be to spark interest in the reader, but they are skewed when it comes to the facts.

Now, there may be some people who are unable to maintain a strictly vegan lifestyle—often, this is because the digestive system, for one reason or another, is unable to fully access the nutrients from the plant foods, and so while they may be consuming adequate nutrition, their bodies cannot utilize it properly. But this is an important distinction to make, because from my experience, these are the people who have worked with practitioners and tried various routines before concluding that a solely plant-based or vegan routine would not work for them. This is vastly different than other stories of folks who try an uninformed diet for a short amount of time and make overarching conclusions about it.

My purpose here is not to be dismissive of concerns about plant-based or vegan eating, but rather to speak to those concerns, to dispel common myths, and to provide more adequate information than is often provided. No one food routine is right for all people. This is just as true in vegan circles (for instance, my envy of people who can tolerate raw foods more often than I can, even though we’re all still consuming plant foods). And ultimately only you can decide what food routine works best for you, your lifestyle, and your body. But without adequate knowledge, and with so much misinformation out there, how can anyone make a truly informed decision?

As a holistic nutritionist, I want to help people know that there are more and less efficient ways to become plant-based or vegan, if that is something that they might like to pursue. There are so many benefits to eating more plants and fewer animal products—you just have to make sure you have the right information.

Old Wounds

How are you doing?

It’s a question we’ve been more intentionally asking each other, and ourselves, over this last week than perhaps we ever have. The uncertainty, the distancing, the chaos…everything keeps changing so fast, and I know at least for me, it has felt nearly impossible to keep up. But a bright spot in that fog has been the purposeful steps we’ve taken to interact, to check in, to authentically share. It is a kindred togetherness that I hope we maintain after this crisis has passed.

This is certainly a challenging time, and I’m wondering if, like me, some of you have noticed some old wounds resurfacing. For me, this was a surprising, albeit natural, reaction to the presence of uncharted stress. Primarily, I observed some of my previous disordered eating patterns attempting to make a comeback—urges that have not presented in years subtly began to take shape again as I attempted to process the chaos around me. Thankfully, I have been able to take note of it, to acknowledge its presence, and to validate the way in which my body is trying to cope. Instead of shame, I choose curiosity; instead of ignoring, I choose noticing. But this does not mean that I am not also frustrated with its presence.

The reality is that stress of any kind is going to ask a lot of ourselves, and “coping” does not inherently mean that we are taking care of ourselves well. It does, however, mean that we will react in the ways in which we have learned—for better or worse—to feel the least amount of pain. And if we are not attending to ourselves and choosing strategies that truly promote wellness, we are likely to fall back on old patterns that have given us short-term relief yet have not helped in the long-term.

But healing is a continual process, not a one-time achievement, and if you’ve noticed old wounds resurfacing, this does not mean that you have not also been intentional about your health. We are complex beings, and as much as you can, I encourage you to view yourself with curiosity, respect, and compassion while you process and cope. For me, the presence of escapism bingeing urges does not mean that I have not also experienced healing, and it does not indicate that I am completely ignoring self-care amidst the current stress. It is information—it serves as a barometer for my current level of stress, and it encourages me to pay closer attention. It reminds me that I am the whole of my experiences, and it is ok if old pieces come forward. Attending to those things intentionally but without panic, I can most effectively keep caring for myself and choosing what helps me most. And I can recognize how the work I have already done is just as vital for me now; there is incredible power in knowing that we have the capacity to handle the old wounds, and that they can, in fact, be healed.

For many wounds, both past and present, a helpful salve can often involve the bonds we have with each other. Therapists, healers, family, friends, acquaintances, and strangers can all have such an incredible impact on well-being—in these engagements, we offer each other the opportunity to speak to our internal experiences, receive validation and understanding, laugh, cry, smile, hug…so much goodness can happen within these interactions. And while we now may have all been prescribed distance from one another, I have observed more intention in our relationship with each other than I ever have. It seems that more of us truly see each other, acknowledging one another with care and compassion.

So, if you are also experiencing old wounds during this strange and difficult time, know that you are not alone. Now more than ever, may we continue to more universally carry each other through hardships, and let us authentically speak to our experiences with kindness and without fear.

We’re in it together.

February Discounts & Donations!

Announcing a great discount and a way to give back!

For the month of February, when love is often most celebrated, I want to give some extra love to my clients and to an organization that is close to my heart.

This month, all services for clients are 20% off! Plus, 20% of all February proceeds will go to Love Always Sanctuary, an animal sanctuary located in the San Fernando Valley near Los Angeles. They are working hard to pay for a new, larger property where they can rescue more animals as well as provide therapy to people. Check them out at https://lovealwayssanctuary.org/ !

If you’ve been considering getting a nutrition and wellness coach to help you with all your health goals, now is the perfect time to get started! I provide a supportive, nonjudgmental space for you to really thrive in the way that works best for you. And the great thing about working with an online coach is that it’s super convenient to attend sessions—you can meet with me from where you have internet access!

So give some love to yourself by making your wellness a priority, and know that the love will be shared with others. And with the discount, now is a great time to purchase a payment package—you can really get your money’s worth with this one!

And remember—you are worthy of love and kindness, now and always.

Holiday Blues?

Every holiday season, there is no end to the messages we receive that remind us that this is (supposed to be) the happiest time of year. And why not? The twinkling lights, the social gatherings, the gifts, the merriment…for a lot of people, this is the best time of year. It can offer a moment to embrace loved ones, compassion, and brightness, and it marks the end of a year that allows one to reflect and move forward.

But maybe you feel differently. You might wonder, “What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I feel the joy that everyone else seems to have right now?” But you’re not alone. For many, the holidays are tough, and so these merry messages can be isolating. There is an infinite number of reasons why this time of year might be challenging for you. Perhaps it’s socially-related—loss of a loved one, being away from family, or having a painful relationship (or no relationship) with someone. Maybe it’s related to mental health—if you deal with these challenges throughout the year, a time of year that seemingly is joyous for those around you can make your symptoms even more difficult to manage. Or maybe you don’t partake in the holidays, and you feel unseen and forgotten as everyone else makes assumptions about how you may or may not celebrate.

Or, perhaps, the holidays have simply become synonymous with stress, and it is just too much pressure to feel a prescribed way each December. The gift list keeps growing, the money keeps vanishing, the schedule keeps filling, and it no longer feels like there is any time that can be allotted for joy and peace.

If you can relate to any of this, you are not alone. And, I believe, there are still things you can do for yourself during this time of year to soothe your heart. Even if it doesn’t look like how everyone else is doing it, it’s still important to engage your self-care tools—especially at a time when life might feel extra difficult!

  1. First, it is a choice to engage in the holiday stress. Absolutely none of the seemingly required things are actually necessary. Can’t bake cookies this year? Fine. Can’t attend that party? No problem. Can’t get as many (or any) gifts this year? That’s ok! Can’t get your home to look spotless? No one will notice as much as you think they will. While it may be challenging at first to choose to say “no” to some things, and “yes” to others, it really is just great self-care to empower yourself to make your own boundaries.

  2. You do not have to feel happy during this time of year. Release that pressure. If you feel happy for some of the time, embrace it! Name it! Enjoy it! If it doesn’t stick around, that’s ok. Engage your self-care toolbox and know that it’s human nature for our emotions to ebb and flow, no matter what time of year.

  3. If you feel low during the entirety of the season (or the year), seek out a therapist who can support you. Keep sessions going throughout the year, and if the holidays are especially difficult, make sure you have appointments scheduled leading up to that tricky season so you can be prepared.

  4. You get to choose what kind and amount of socializing is best for you. For some, that means saying “yes” to every invite, because maybe that helps with the loneliness. For others, it might include a few intimate gatherings and plenty of alone time to rejuvenate. Or it might be just you and your closest person spending time together. Whatever it looks like for you, trust your instincts that you know better than anyone how to care for yourself—and release any residual guilt that comes with saying “no”!

  5. Those same boundaries go for family, too. Family can be life-giving for some, but toxic to others. You are allowed to make your own choices regarding what you need from family (and what you feel able to give to them).

  6. If you’re dealing with a loss, find a way to honor that loss. Write a letter, listen to a song, meditate and acknowledge the feelings of grief. Recognize your strength in handling that loss. Find a community of others who understand the mourning process. Seek a therapist for extra support.

  7. Sometimes the loss isn’t about people, but about things. A lack of financial stability, food, housing, healthcare, support—this lacking can feel especially prominent during a time of year when it feels like others have everything you do not. But this time of year does not have to be about the plentiful, but about the sufficient. And if sufficiency can’t be achieved, seek community resources—social services, food pantries, religious buildings with community outreach. Know that you are not alone.

  8. And if you don’t participate in the holidays, or you celebrate differently than others, maybe your method of self-care is to simply ignore the festivities around you. Maybe you can take a vacation or take time to reflect on the importance of your own values. Finding community can be helpful as well—having like-minded people in your corner is a sure way to feel less isolated and more seen.

For me, I tend to be a mix of merriment and blues during this time of year. Some of my mixed emotions come from loving the holiday season so much that I preemptively panic about it being over before it’s even begun! I’ve been working on paying closer attention to this—this noticing of our feelings is such a vital part of self-care and working through things. I try to take a very simplistic approach to reacting to this holiday-related anxiety. Here are some of my favorite things to do:

  1. Light candles. Especially pine-scented ones. Embrace the light. Use it as a quiet moment of peace.

  2. Really take in all the holiday lights. Long ago, during a depressed period, I remember telling my therapist at the time that I felt silly for how happy the holiday lights make me. She bluntly (and very helpfully) asked “Why is it silly?” She reminded me that whatever it is that brings us a moment of joy, however small, is something to be graciously accepted and appreciated. It is never silly for the simple things to allow us a bit of relief from strife.

  3. Bake all the cookies. Every nostalgic cookie.

  4. Find time to sit, breathe, and listen to holiday music. The to-do list will be there later. Quiet time to rest the chattering mind is vital.

  5. Name my preemptive post-holiday panic. Acknowledge it. Recognize its meaning. It is reminding me to slow down, experience what is around me, and to remember that what makes this time of year special for me is its impermanence. If it were here all year, it wouldn’t mean much.

Whatever your experience is with this season, the advice is the same: intentional self-care is vital. It is how this time of year doesn’t swallow you up and spit you out into January, and it’s how you can ultimately be more present for others as well.

Be kind to yourselves, one and all.

* If you are struggling—or even if you just need added support for your self-care routine—please reach out to a therapist. You do not have to go it alone. *

Just Breathe

Like so many people, I have dealt with anxiety and depression for most of my life. It ebbs and flows, but I accepted long ago that it is part of my life for the long haul, and so I try to always be in pursuit of what will be most supportive to my mental health. A part of this exploration has been connecting with my body and mind as one entity—they are not separate, and so caring for myself is not about focusing on only one part, but rather on nourishing my whole self.

One thing I’ve really been able to connect with over the years is how my digestion is impacted if I’m not taking care of my mind and heart. This is a part of what makes holistic nutrition so beautiful to me—it’s not only about what I put into my body, but also about how other aspects of myself impact what my body does with what I put into it. How we feel in our heads and hearts can affect the body’s processing of foods, just like how we can get a stomach ache when we feel nervous. We literally feel our feelings in our stomach—so why wouldn’t those feeling have an impact on our digestion?

I find it may be easier to think about this in the context of how it feels to eat a meal in a hurry compared with when we can sit in peace and savor each bite—I know it has always felt like a clear difference with how my system handles the food and feels afterward. But what about during the times where stress is more chronic, when we’ve stopped being terribly aware of the presence of stress because it has become a constant? For me, during times of high stress, my digestive system does not feel as equipped to process the foods I eat, no matter how nutritious. And of course I want to support my body in accessing all the nourishment I give it, but it can be tough to remain aware of my mental space when I don’t do so intentionally—if the stress remains unchecked, suddenly it has been days or weeks of feeling off, and it is only when I finally take a moment to sit with myself and check in that I realize my stress level has been negatively impacting my ability to truly nourish myself.

We can’t always change the situation, but we can support ourselves in coping most effectively with the chaos around (or in) us.

One simple strategy that I like adding to my daily wellness routine is this: breathe. Upon waking, take a few moments of quiet, and focus on the breath. I like to count—I count 1 to 4 while breathing in through my nose, hold my breath for 5 counts, and then release the breath through my mouth as I count 1 to 8. This helps me focus my attention on my breath, and it helps me control it a little more than my stressed-out brain often allows. Practicing intentional, mindful breathing throughout the day can help to decrease stress levels and feel more focused. While seemingly small, any chance to unload some anxiety can help your whole self—mind, body, heart—work more effectively as one beautiful being. This way, your body can better use all the good stuff you’re putting into it!

Now, I do want to be clear that really supportive breathwork is actually not always super easy to learn, and it can be even more complicated to do breathing techniques correctly if there is a history of chronic stress or trauma. For something more substantial, I would recommend finding a good therapist, mindfulness expert, or trauma-informed yoga instructor. But if you need to start small, try taking a few nourishing breaths throughout the day and see how you feel—even this act of intentional self-care can make a big difference.

The "D" Word

When I was younger, the word “diet” represented both my enemy of and my savior for a myriad of problems. It meant hunger, restriction, and failure. It also meant perfection, beauty, and popularity. As a result, I cycled through restriction and bingeing for over a decade, implementing strategies such as weight-loss drinks and supplements, fad diets (I can still remember the frailty I felt on Atkin’s), and counting every single calorie, fat, and carbohydrate…all of which resulted in the pendulum swinging over to secretive bingeing as seemingly my only outlet for stress and my only way to refill the physical and emotional emptiness.

I knew I didn’t feel good, but truthfully, I was completely unaware that there was another way. Looking back, I feel so much grief for my younger self, knowing that she fully thought the only way out was to reach a certain body type and weight. My thinking was so dysfunctional, and yet it was completely reinforced by the larger culture and normalized to the point that, even now looking back, I can see how I didn’t know I could question those norms. Not only did I see these problematic messages in media, but I became more and more aware of how constant the self-shaming food talk was in social circles—the comparing, the blaming, the self-defeating jokes. Food was the disease, dieting was the antidote.

The shifts I have made since then did not happen overnight. They were small changes, both mental and behavioral, over many years. One significant aspect that helped me was when I started seeing an acupuncturist regularly. I responded strongly to the methods and mentality of Traditional Chinese Medicine, where the person is not a bunch of parts put together, but rather, a complete system; when the system is out of balance, there is no blame or fear, there is simply a curiosity in identifying how to help the body get back into balance. As my practitioner reminded me, “We don’t need to talk about the ‘mind-body connection,’ because the mind and body are simply all one thing.” This helped me begin to connect to myself differently, to respect and value all parts of me as one whole being. This practice allowed me to become more attuned to what my body was telling me. I began listening to what I needed, and allowing myself the freedom to fill those needs.

This is really what I think our relationship with food ideally comes down to—feeling empowered to know ourselves and what we need to nourish ourselves in a non-judgmental way. Now, if I eat a particular thing, and that thing or the amount makes me feel unwell, I am more able to simply take note and to trust that I can continue to feed myself in more ways that feel good than those that don’t. It is no longer about weight, it is about how I feel within myself. This shift has helped me, over time, pay less attention to calories on the nutrition label and more attention to the particular ingredients and how they may impact my body’s needs and overall wellness.

The other major factor that allowed me to make these changes was moving toward plant-based eating. Now, I am not here to say that plant-based or vegan eating is the answer to all dysfunctional eating thoughts and behaviors. But I can speak from my own experience that as I reduced the amount of animal products I consumed, the more able I was to notice how I felt when eating different things. And now, as a vegan, I have experienced more food freedom than I ever thought possible. Despite the worry that others may express that plant-based eating is restrictive, I have never felt freer.

Let me be clear, though—this is a lifelong process. Do I still catch myself in the bathroom mirror turning to the side to do a “tummy check”? Yes. When I feel bloated and less comfortable in my body, do I occasionally notice my thoughts becoming more judgmental? You bet. Do I sometimes get a spike in anxiety when I eat more of something than I intended? Yup. But I also know that I’m now able to measure in years how long it’s been since I’ve really wanted to restrict my food intake or felt myself spiral into a secretive binge, and I am always trying to pay attention to my body and mind as the whole of me that deserves respect and nourishment.

As a holistic nutritionist, I want to help others move away from “the D word,” exploring how to have a positive and nourishing relationship with food without a restrictive diet. If that is something that sounds interesting to you, let’s schedule your free consultation! Click here to easily schedule online. We’re in it together!