Ask pretty much anyone in my life, and they'll confirm that I am about as stubborn as they come.
When I've made a decision or developed a viewpoint, I claim it with the fervor of a thousand beings.
I express it firmly and without wavering. I am certain. I will never change.
But you know what?
Sometimes I do.
Sometimes, I shift my perspective or my plans or my dreams.
And honestly, this has been confusing for many people in my life.
They think I must not have meant what I felt before.
They knew I'd change my mind eventually.
They know I'll just change my mind again.
(And honestly, how frustrating to be told that I am both too stubborn and too wishy-washy??)
Here's something I've learned over the years: what others might choose to perceive as indecisiveness is actually you just being human.
We are allowed to change our minds.
To change our viewpoints.
To grow and to flourish in different ways and on varying paths.
To pursue something only to leave it behind and go after something else when our intuition leads us there.
This doesn't mean you didn't mean what you said when you said it. Changing your mind doesn't invalidate your authenticity.
And it doesn't mean there won't be Truths that you will hold fast to for a lifetime...
...it just means that you don't have to be the same static being from birth to death to avoid being seen as indecisive.
(Though, also, can we start to reclaim "indecisive" as a positive thing? Why the hell has it gotten such a bad wrap? What's so wrong with uncertainty?)
This is true in all aspects of life, including in the ways we approach our wellness.
It's ok to change your mind. To try something different. To no longer believe what you used to, or for there to be more nuance in your perspective than there was before.
It doesn't mean your former self was wrong—there's no need for binaries or shaming here.
It might just mean that you are a human, ever changing, ever growing, ever learning.
We are forever seekers.
Our bodies shift, and we shift along with them.
Our spirits reposition in response to the lives we live and the lessons we learn.
There is nothing wrong with you.
This is why I speak almost constantly about nuance in my work, and why sometimes I'm a bad business owner who doesn't have a *crystal clear message* in my marketing.
Wellness is too individualized for blanket statements to be relevant (or welcomed) 100% of the time.
You are uniquely you, sometimes in ways that I will never be able to fully understand, no matter how long we work together.
But I can support you in learning more about that complexity within you...in building a relationship with your body that is multifaceted and will probably mean you'll make lots of shifts and changes over your lifetime within that partnership.
And if some of those transitions are challenging, that's ok. That's really natural.
I would be honored to walk with you for awhile as you make whatever changes you want to make.
And never, ever will I think you're being indecisive if you change your mind along the way.
I will, though, celebrate and honor your unique humanity, every step of the way.
It's ok to change your mind